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The Lottery of Life -
Would You Re-Draw? (by Adam Khoo)
Lots of people complain that they
don’t
have the luck to achieve the success and wealth that they want.
“If only I was luckier, life would be a lot easier and I
would be
a lot happier”, they would say. Many people pray of the day
they
could draw that lucky ticket and win that million dollar lottery that
would change their life.
What many people do not realize is that the fact that they are
comfortably reading this means that they have been lucky enough to be
one of the few winners of the biggest lottery of all….the
lottery of life! They were lucky enough to draw the ‘right
ticket’ and be born where they are.
Imagine that 24 hours before you were born, God gave you a bowl of 100
tickets. You had to draw one ticket that would determine your sex,
country of birth, wealth, intelligence etc.. What would have been your
chance to end up where you are now?
Let’s look at the odds. If you were to take the entire
earth’s population and shrink it to 100 people (represented
by
100 tickets), with all existing human ratios the same, it would be made
up of the following:
49 would be female, 51 would be male
80 would live in substandard housing. 20 in
acceptable housing.
67 would be unable to read.
Only 33 would be literate
1 would have a university
education. 99 would not be able to attend university
50 would be malnourished and 1
dying of starvation
33 would be without access to
a safe water supply
16 would have access to the
Internet
17 would live in a developed
country. 83 live in underdeveloped/developing countries
If you were given the chance to turn back time and go back to 24 hours
before you were born, would you choose to return your current ticket
and re-draw a new ticket from the 100 again? If not, then consider how
lucky you are!
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Relationship
Worth Saving?
When a relationship goes sour, we
sometimes
try to salvage it, or attempt to “get things back to where to
used to be”. Some of our efforts may work to a degree, while
others only succeed in prolonging the final throes of something that is
already terminally ill.
But how do we know if a relationship is worth fighting for? Will it do
both parties more harm in the long run by mounting a protracted and
misguided rescue operation?
Here are a few things to consider:
Is your partner still in love or still interested in pursuing the
relationship? Sometimes when we lose a love, we tend to dwell on what
used to be, not on what the relationship is currently about. Of course
it was good in the beginning, but that stage of the relationship is not
always on accurate measure. It’s best to look at what is
currently happening and evaluate how or why the situation is the way it
is. Are you in love with a memory? Are you clinging to the relationship
because you’re afraid of being alone?
No matter how hard it may for you initially, if you do breakup, the
hurt will go away. There may be a lot of pain, resentment and jealousy
right now, but if you are willing to move forward, it will pass. Ask
yourself “Do I really want to be with someone who
doesn’t
want to be with me?”. Imagine what a mutually loving
relationship
with someone should feel like. It is what you have now? if not, do you
really want to stay and pass up the chance to find true love?
Are you staying in this relationship for reasons other than love? Some
people, knowingly or unknowingly, stay in a relationship for the wrong
reasons, such as having a roof over their heads, having their bills
paid, being afraid of being alone or other reasons. If this is you, you
must realize that co-dependent relationships will not work. If you
really want to lead a fulfilling life, take the steps to become
self-sufficient; it can be very empowering, incredible reeling.
Are you assuming what your partner is or is not feeling? Sometimes our
“inner voices” tell us things that are not true. If
a lot
of the tension in your relationship is due to suspicion, speculation
and second-guessing, try talking things through openly with your
partner. Open communication is the only way to resolve these issues and
is a necessary part of a loving relationship.
Once you have seriously considered the above, you should have a pretty
good idea where your relationship is headed. Remember, the end of a
relationship is not the end of life. If you are not happy and you are
quite sure things are not going to work out, its time to move forward.
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Manage Your Time
We all share the same 24 hours in
a day, seven
days in a week. But why do achievers seems to be able to do so much
more while the others are consistently overwhelmed by the tasks facing
them?
Well, successful people follow some simples but effective rules to
manage time efficiently.
Clarify your goals and strategy. Be very clear about your aims and
ambitions, both short and long term. Write them down. Once you know
what you really want to achieve (and why) it’s easier to make
decisions about what needs doing, and to plan accordingly. Focus on
your top priorities. You’ll be more productive and profitable
if
you identify and focus on the areas most important to your business.
Work on the fundamentals first.
Schedule time. Literally write an appointment in your work planner to
set aside a realistic block of time for your priority actions. This
reduces anxiety over not having enough time and keeps you focused.
Not enough time to fulfill certain requests? Well, learn to say
“no”! Motivational speaker and author Jim Rohn once
cautioned against letting our mouths overload our backs. Always check
your schedule before committing to anything new. Don’t allow
others to divert you from your objectives.
Create supportive systems. This includes systems for filing, management
information and communication.
Take a reality check. Will your current activity have a positive
outcome, or are you doing it to avoid something else? Ask yourself if
doing this takes you towards your goal.
Balance your life. Formally schedule personal activities too, so you
make time for family, friends, your health and fun because having a
balanced life reduces stress and increases energy level. When I talk
about time management, I really mean life management!
And at the end of the working day, by all means plan for tomorrow, but
end the working day. If possible, don’t cultivate the habit
of
bringing work home. Your home should be a place of rest, of love, of
fund, not the second office.
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End
Procrastination
Procrastination
will drive you towards anxiety and worrying.
Never under-estimate the power of putting things off.
Procrastination is a type of behavior which is characterized by
deferment of actions or tasks to a later time.
Procrastination is a time bomb. It’s a snowball that will
eventually turn into an avalanche and your life may be filled with
anxiety.
It all seems fairly harmless –
“I’ll start my exercise routine tomorrow”,
“I’ll study later”,
“I’ll work on that project next week”,
“I’ll get my health insurance next month”,
“I’ll back-up my data later”.
But
it soon becomes a habit, a lazy attitude towards improving your life.
Before you know it, you’ve become unfit and unhealthy, with
several bug deadlines looming, your school exam is tomorrow and you
have yet to start your tick notes to go through tonight,
you’re saddled with an illness which requires expensive
treatment, and your computer with all your important work has crashed.
Make no mistake, procrastination is a disease that will eat into your
life, dampening your ambition and desire for success. Your dream to
excel in you life can never be achieved.
End procrastination today with these simple steps…
First of all, the most crucial tip – do it now! In order to
break the habit of procrastination, replace it with an attitude of
urgency. Practicing working on whatever comes your way, prioritize your
tasks of course, but keep ticking off your To-DO checklist one by one.
Make steady progress. I promise you the sense of achievement and
freedom that comes from completing your tasks will be so addictive, you
won’t be able to stop.
Try it today – whatever comes your way, a project, an email,
an errand, a customer request, consider whether it’s
important or not, then work on them, one by one. You’ll
become more efficient in no time, not to mention you’ll be
relieved at the amount of work you got done. All this efficiency
I’m sure will not go unnoticed by your supervisors and
colleagues!
When attempting to end procrastination, it also helps to break down the
bigger tasks into smaller, more manageable jobs. Don’t let
big projects overwhelm you. Take it one step at a time. As long as
you’re making steady progress, you shouldn’t be
worried.
And ask for help! You know sometimes we make the mistake of assuming we
have to do everything ourselves. Your reasons may be so save money, to
be self-reliant, to make sure everything goes your way and so on, but
contracting some work out would actually make more sense if the long
term. Or get friends or family members to help out!
End procrastination today! Now!
Learn more
about eliminating procrastination here
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Choosing
To Be Positive
How has your day been? How is
it going to be? If we had the choice,
we’d no doubt want each day to be phenomenal –
exciting,
enriching, meaningful, joyful and pleasurable. But are you exercising
that choice? Do you intentionally and consciously choose your attitude
each day?
Most of us tend to allow external circumstances or other people to
choose your attitude for us. As in, whether our day is a good one or
not is dictated by whether we get up on time, whether the kids give us
any trouble, whether the traffic is agreeable, whether the boss is in a
good mood, whether another big, thankless task is dumped on us, whether
our spouse or partner greets us with a smile.
When you choose to live this way, you are allowing external
circumstances to control your mood and disposition. This is fine as
long as everything runs smoothly in your life. But that
doesn’t
happen often, does it? life is hardly predictable – accidents
happen, machines break down, kids have their tantrums, workloads become
seemingly unmanageable. And when you finally get home in anticipation
of a tender hug and a sympathetic ear, you find instead another
frustrated and angry person who can’t wait to dump all the
day’s tribulations onto your already tired soul.
What happens then? What happens when you have a lousy day?
You see, the problem with not choosing a positive attitude everyday is
that we run the risk of getting a negative one imposed on us at the
whim of other people and situations. Our mood is then at the mercy of
the volatile. But although we can’t dictate the weather, we
certainly can choose how we react to it.
So what if we claim our right to consciously choose our attitude?
Well, we’d invite more joy into our lives. We often
overestimate
the influence the outside world has on our mood – like if we
encounter a surly cashier at the café, we feel offended and
ourselves become sullen and rude, as if to pay forward this unbearable
debt of bad manners. When really, the moment’s tension can be
neutralized instantly if we choose not to be affected by someone
else’s thoughtlessness.
By choosing a positive attitude each day, we attract more positive
experience into our life. The qualify of each experience often
determines the quality of the next experience – I’m
sure
you’ve been in situation where your plans get thrown off
completely because something when wrong. But when things go awry, you
can also choose to move on without a scratch, thus affecting a better
outcome or future experience.
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Secrets Of Sound Sleep
A single good night’s sleep can rejuvenate your mind, body,
and soul. Here’s how you can get one tonight.
A regular exercise routine will help you fall asleep faster and wake up
feeling more refreshed, but experts don’t recommend vigorous
exercise fewer than three hours before bedtime. Instead, schedule your
workout five to six hours before lights out. Exercise causes your core
body temperature to rise, and natural sleepiness will set in when your
body temperature drops again.
Find another place for stressful activities. Pay your bills in your
study or dining table, not in your bedroom, and definitely not in your
bed. Your bed should be your sanctuary.
Now you probable know this one – avoid nicotine and alcohol
before bed. Nicotine is a potent stimulant, and the metabolism of
alcohol has an alerting effect. Skip the afternoon latte, too. The
stimulating effect of caffeine can remain for as long as 12 hours. Keep
in mind that many teas and carbonated drinks contain high levels of
caffeine as well.
Restrict your water intake just before bed and during the night.
Midnight trips to the bathroom can cut into your sleep. Particularly if
you have a hard time dozing off again. Six hours of continuous sleep
often result in a more rested feeling than eight hours of on-again,
off-again snoozing.
Check to see if any of your prescription or over-the-counter
medications may be interfering with your sleep. Some diet pills, birth
control pills, anti-depressants, and blood pressure medications can
have a rousing effect. Sleeping pills, while tempting, are not the
answer. They quickly lose their effectiveness and can be addictive.
At night, create a nest for yourself. Eliminate clutter, maintain
a comfortable sleeping temperature, and keep the room dark. Nightlights
and bright moonlight can interfere with quality sleep.
Practice aromatherapy. Lavender oil or a lavender sachet on your
bedside table may help you feel sleepy and more relaxed.
Stock your bedside table with easy reads that are both empowering and
relaxing.
Keeps a notebook and a pen near your bed, as well, to jot down any late
night worries. The act of recording your anxieties will help clear them
from your head so you can relax into slumber. Sweet dreams!
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Think And Take Action
Many people think they are in control of their own lives and minds when
they are in fact simply reacting to what’s happening around
them.
For example, waking up at the same time every day and driving the same
route to work knowing full well that there will usually be an
excruciatingly slow jam. Or not knowing all the relevant information at
the meeting but not asking for dear of appearing ignorant. What about
allowing certain outcomes to determine our mood? Life if a friend turns
up late, or whether or not we get that promotion.
Many of us do not think critically enough about how to
improve
our lives. Sure, we may think about getting a better haircut or how to
get a good deal on our flat, but what about the deeper issues? For
instance, what makes us upset and how we can deal with that? Our
long-term goals, perhaps? What we truly want out of life? How we can
get the knowledge that will help us achieve greater happiness and
success?
We may think we think, but too often we’re simply reacting to
how
we feel. And occasionally when we do think, weak follow-up is done or
not action taken at all. Thoughts are useless until they are put into
action.
Happy and successful people know how to think and take action to
improve their lives. They spend a lot of time seeking understanding of
their own minds. They’re keenly aware of their needs, their
desires, their strengths, their weaknesses, their emotions. They are
comfortable with their authentic selves and do not need to present a
different version to the world. They’re honest to themselves
and
to others and are well-know for their integrity. They seek to make the
world better but are able to distinguish between issues they should
care about and that they should let go.
Ultimately, you have to decide who controls your mind and
your
life. Do you want to simply allow life to happen to you? To let the
words and actions of others influence your mood and behavior? Or do you
want to be responsible for your own happiness?
Happen people accept and respect themselves fully. They know what
they’re good at and what they’re not good at. So
they
don’t react angrily when someone points out their weaknesses.
They also don’t collapse under self-castigation when they
make
mistakes.
What about consistently letting other people’s advice
overrule your own? And allowing them to make you feel bad about a
certain decision your made? Remember, no decision is a bad one. it
merely puts in motion a chain reaction that leads to different things.
So think for yourself, respect your own thoughts, contemplate how you
can improve your life and take action!
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Manage Stress At Your
Workplace
You are not alone if you feel stressed at work, or even at home.
Thousands and millions out there are experiencing different level of
stress while you are reading this article.
Everyone acknowledges the existence and inevitability of stress at the
workplace, but how many of us really understand the extent of damage
it's wreaking?
Employee falling sick, poor concentration at work, employee fearful of
going to work, not putting in their best effort, all there cripple
productivity. Some estimates put the loss of GDP due to stress in some
developed nations at about 10%!
Managers (particularly human resource manager) have the duty to monitor
stress levels in the workforce, identify the factors that cause stress,
and take firm measures to reduce it. We can point to the following
factors that consistently will increase stress at work
1. Poor working conditions (e.g. work overload,
long working hours, travel, noises, or even work underload),
2. Lack of clear role in the
company (e.g.
expectations that were not clearly defined, conflicting priorities and
responsibility for others),
3. Poor relationships at work
(e.g. low levels of trust and lack of support).
In order to reduce and prevent stress at work:
1. Roles, responsibilities and expectations should
be clearly defined and agreed.
2. Employees should have
genuine control over their work and be allowed an appropriate degree of
self-management of workload.
3. Employee should participate
in planning and decision making
4. Conducive working
environment.
5. Employees should be
actively discouraged from working excessively long hours.
Although there are many ways of relieving stress outside the office,
only a few techniques are suitable for use in the workplace. One method
that can be used in a work environment is aromatherapy. Many essential
oils are recognized for their stress-relieving effects, and can help
aid concentration and focus, and improve productivity and mood. There
are plenty of electric oil diffusers available that don't require any
burning as candles are mostly not suitable to be used in workplace.
Try oil like lavender, rosemary and orange, all of them known to reduce
anxiety, depression and fatigue, and aid clarity, balance, relaxation
and rejuvenation.
There is also an increase in popularity of stress relieve by audio
therapy which one can apply during break time. It was also proven to
reduce anxiety and depression, and to achieve mind relaxation.
The above mentioned methods work not only at work place; one can easily
apply it at home, which is equally important
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